Let Go of a Your Comfortable Position for a Better One
I’m an old guy and everything for which I have worked could slide through my fingers in moments, but before I let that happen I would fight “tooth and nail” to protect it but then again….why is that so frightening to loss a comfortable position in life? If you’ve lived long enough then you’ve had “earth shattering” info delivered to you. No matter the significance or severity….being told you’ve got cancer, you’re taking a tour into a combat zone, you’re parent has passed away, you’re job has been terminated, you earned an ” ‘F’ on that project… that kind of news throws us out of our comfort zone and we don’t like being moved from our positions of comfort. However, I’ve learned that sometimes the fight to hold the place of comfort consumes so much more time and energy than it would be just as easy accepting the next position/momentary displacement and rebuilding something better. It’s the understanding of problem-solving that affords us the ability to work ourselves out of a troubled or threatening position and unto the opportunity to create or gain something better…maybe even more comfortable than the previous position we fought so hard to maintain.
Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is similar in that I fight like hell to avoid side control or full mount which is accurate to do but not imperative if you understand that you could accept the aggression, counter the move and attack from a new position. During sparring I have sometimes delayed my escapes because my mind will not allow me to release my grip on a lapel or unwrap my leg from a guard position because I feel a sense of security…however, its false security.
It’s difficult to change our instincts of holding unto whatever our hands can grasp…we’ve been grabbing onto things since birth and sometimes those things that we hold unto for security are the very things holding us back from progressing forward. I’ve found that sometimes I retain and gather greater things easier with my hands open than with them closed.
